Do you ever find yourself looking at women you admire and think ‘how does she do it?’ We all want to be like the Beyonces of this world and to do this we need to adopt their way of thinking. Today I’m going to break down the thoughts that successful women have to stay on top.
What successful women are thinking
“What went well today?”
It can be easy to focus on the negative in life and work. If the boss gives you a side glance you can spend the rest of the day fixated on what it might mean and work yourself up into an anxious frenzy. And in the process, you’ve completely forgotten about how you helped a client with an issue they had. You should get into the habit at the end of the day of keeping a journal and record the wins you had every day. These don’t have to be major achievements, just things that made your day better. At the end of some days it might be a struggle to think of wins, but forcing yourself to think of something positive helps you not to dwell on the negative. The Five Minute Journal is perfect for this.
“I’m Worth It”
Yes I know I’m conjuring up images of shampoo with a cheesy tagline like this, but successful women know their worth. If you find yourself settling in your career, in your relationships, in life in general – it’s going to be difficult to find the success you deserve. Successful women embody the ‘I’m worth it’ mantra because they accept themselves and their flaws. They are the queens of self-care because they know that they deserve it. If you find you are constantly putting yourself bottom on your priority list, it’s time to start working on your self-esteem. A book I found particularly helpful was ‘Let It Out’ by Katie Dalebout. This book can help identify what mental blocks you have from knowing your self-worth.
“What can I learn from this?”
Successful women who suffer from setbacks and disappointments don’t see it as the end of the world. Instead, they think ‘what can I learn from this’ and enact the lessons they have learned. Successful women crave actionable advice and teachings so they don’t make the same mistake again. Don’t waste your time stewing in regret and anger, learn from the experience and move on.
“I’m not alone”
Behind every successful woman is her squad that are cheering her on. It can be tempting when you are stressed to alienate yourself from your friends and family as you try to push through your workload. But when you are struggling on your own, there is no one to give you a fresh perspective and help you see the things that you are missing. Often we can be our own harshest critic, but when friends surround and support us they can give us the belief that we can succeed. Next time that you are feeling as if you are deep in the trenches and have no one to turn to, download the GirlCrew App and reach out to find ladies who can support you and you, in turn, can cheer on.
“I’m only human”
Successful women know that they are not perfect. They also appreciate that life happens and things do not always go to plan. Too many of us focus on perfection. We strive to be perfect in all areas of life, but quickly become overwhelmed so we give up. Women who have got it together know that change comes in small increments. They work on small aspects of themselves and their lives and it’s only when they feel comfortable do they add more changes. Being a perfectionist means that you often find yourself frustrated with your life. So next time you find yourself thinking that you need to change everything about yourself, take a breath and think ‘what’s the one thing I can work on right now’ and go from there.
“The future is now”
We can waste so much time on regret that it can almost consume us. Successful women know that you can’t change what happened yesterday, but you can change what’s going to happen from now. These women excel in keeping their minds and emotions in the present. They know where their next goal is taking them so they focus on that target until completion. Next time you find yourself ruminating over something from your past, stop and take 2 minutes to visualise your future. What does it look like? Does it excite you? See what feelings it conjures up. If they are negative – it’s time to work on how to get it to a more positive place right now. If you can find a future vision that excites you, you know what you need to work on today to make it a reality.
Do you think you have a success mindset? Or is this something you need to work on? Let us know in the comments below.