It can be easy to turn your nose up at something new out of fear, but sometimes taking that first step is all you need. For those of you in the GirlCrew Dublin 40+ group, I’m sure you’re all familiar with Aileen by now. Her ever-cheerful posts and boundless enthusiasm are infectious, but did you know she had a cautious start? So pop the kettle on, grab a biccie, and hopefully some of her bravery will rub off on you. Here’s her story.
A Rocky Start
GirlCrew 40+……..the name was enough to bring about a snort of derision when I first heard it – but also fear at the idea of joining what sounded like it could be a militant bunch of menopausal women in dungarees with severe anger management issues.
GirlCrew Nervous Newbies Survival Guide
- Start off getting to know who’s in your local area first (just ask!!). Some women can join up and go out to an event where they’ll meet 20+ strangers – others just can’t. And that OK. It’s not a competition.
- Chat online – message each other and expand your dwindling list of Facebook friends. You’ll be amazed at how much you have in common.
- Appreciate the fact that making friends at 40+ is a bit more intimidating than it was at 5. No skipping rope or rollerskates to bribe potential new buddies with for one thing.
- GirlCrew isn’t just about socialising – it’s a support network. We’re all here to help you with your problems, give you advice, steer you in the right direction. There is a wealth of life experience here – tap into it!!!
- Every woman you meet has her own story and is fighting her own demons – but she joined up because she’s wants more from her life. You can have that too.
- Meet someone for a coffee after you’ve been chatting and you feel comfortable – if they live nearby then when an event comes up you can go along together. And that is FAR less intimidating….isn’t it?
- Don’t feel you have to be best buddies with everyone you meet. RELAX – you’ll naturally gravitate towards certain people. Through laughing and chatting and getting to know them…….et voila – you can give them a buzz and meet for lunch or shopping or underwater basket weaving if that’s your thing.
- Everything doesn’t have to be an “event”. As you make new friends your confidence will grow and you can organise things a few of you might be interested in.
- Remember – people socialise and make friends at different speeds. That’s OK – no one is timing you.
- Despite what you may think, the majority of women joining up are nervous and fearful of rejection. But their fear of loneliness is stronger – and that’s what’s pushing them back out there in the hope that they can make new friends and have fun again.
- You’re a “newbie” now – remember that feeling. So when you get the hang of things you can reach out and welcome the women who are anxiously trying to find their feet.
- A great tip I picked up years ago….when entering a room full of strangers – smile! It’s the easiest way to make everybody like you.
Huge thanks to the ever-wonderful, Aileen, for this piece. She’s a legend in that group – and rightly so. If you’d like to link in with other women make sure you join the app, select your Home crew, and say hi!