I’m OK with a Cliché
It might be quite the cliché, but I really believe life is about the journey, not the destination. Mindfulness, which proves helpful to so many people for such a wide variety of reasons backs this up too. Because it’s not about where you’re going, it’s about settling into the moment and seeing what you have. Another gift mindfulness gives us, is that it helps free us from that terrible habit of comparing what we’ve got to what someone else has. Unbeknownst to us, that same individual could be envying something you have at the very same moment too!
Mindful of the Big Picture
I love the approach of mindfulness SO much, that it’s not just something I try to apply in quiet moments, but in the bigger picture of my life too. Whether that’s how I view my relationships, my career, or even my pet goals. I would LOVE a dog and a cat, but for the moment, I actually really enjoy looking at or admiring other peoples dogs and thinking about which one I’ll get one day, when I have my own place and enough time to care for it. Rather than lamenting that I don’t have one.
What Matters to YOU?
However, when it comes to my job, something else has brought me lots of happiness, and lots of motivation too. That little nugget of gold, is that I work at something where I love the day-to-day grind that my role entails, and my team, but most importantly, my job has meaning, purpose for me, and aligns with my own values. I think gender equality is a huge issue in the world. We’ve come along way, but it hurts my heart that there are girls and women in many parts of the world denied access to education or other opportunities, merely because they are a girl. Don’t get me started on the pay gap. So working in an company where everything is focused on empowering women and giving them easy, safe ways to enjoy life and boost each other up, makes me happy every single day.
But what if you’re not sure what job would be meaningful to you? Or if you’re not sure what work you even enjoy doing? I’ve been there, and that feeling is so much harder than a 16 hour day at something you love! (Not that I recommend that either, but sometimes you just can’t help yourself so let’s be real about that too). That feeling can sink in and last, and isn’t always solved by a good night’s sleep or a coffee.
Figuring Out the Next Steps
In that time, I solved the problem for myself by taking the advice of lots of great people, by reading lots, by making plans, by making lists. But it took me at least a year to even come close to feeling like I knew what direction to go. And in that time frame, life can feel a little listless. For the first time in my life, I didn’t have direction and it worried me. I didn’t feel like ‘myself’.
At the time I also had no idea there were people and workshops and online programmes all geared towards helping you out with this! At the time I probably couldn’t have afforded it right off the bat, but it’s definitely something I would have considered saving up for. In Dublin, someone whose attitude and approach I really respect and love for this kind of support is Lucy McKenna, who runs Full Aeon.
Lucy has worked in some huge companies – including Google. So if you thought everyone in Google has it all sussed out career-wise, think again. Everyone needs a little help sometimes and that’s A-OK. Now she dedicates her time and her well-crafted expertise to help everyone from working professionals, to kids in schools.
What I love about her focus, is that she wants to help you make meaningful plans, to figure out what really matters to you, what really makes you happy, and to support you in turning those feelings, into an actionable plan.
Yes, that’s a little bit scary. Sometimes our plans working out is MORE scary than nothing changing, but if the last few years of my life are anything to go by, I can tell you one thing, it’s worth it.
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
Lucy has a three part workshop series coming up, beginning at the end of January. It will run on three Tuesday evenings, and you have the option of adding on a one-on-one session with Lucy too, if there are things you want some extra insights on. It’s €110 for the three sessions, and think of it as an investment in your future, your career, your happiness, and maybe even an investment in how you end up making the world a better place. You’re the only one of you in the world, so there are things you can bring to the world that no one else can. And honestly, we can’t wait to see what it is.
GirlCrew will receive a kickback on tickets sold if you mention that you heard about it from us. But if you think that takes from the authenticity of why I think this would be wonderful, feel free to just not mention us. Do this for you.x
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